Beginning from pregnancy, a woman is already undergoing changes in roles and responsibilities in planning for motherhood. The most beautiful and exciting part of a woman’s life is bringing up her child from conception to birth until the baby becomes an adult and lives his/her life. This is what called motherhood. Though lovely and exciting, motherhood is also a difficult part to involve yourself in. It requires a lot of effort, a sense of responsibility, and mainly love and care for the child.
These days, there are support groups in our society, having sufficient knowledge about good motherhood. Some volunteers conduct the mother’s class to help orient them in a precise way. There are also online websites like us and books available for motherhood. Some stuff is readily available online that you can use anytime. Also, excellent motherhood guides are found easily on the Internet. So being a new mother, you can seek advice from our blog. We are providing assistance and guidelines to mothers to help them experience capable motherhood.
- Firstly, you have to avoid the things that can harm your baby during pregnancy period.
- There is a great need to take good care of yourself as everything that you take will directly go to your baby like food and medications.
- It is good to visit a health expert so that your baby’s health will be monitored precisely and from time to time.
- You need to take a healthy diet, avoid junk food, and try to use fruits and veggies. Unhealthy food won’t be advantageous to you and the baby.
- Always follow the diet that is recommended by your doctor.
- Do the regular exercise as it will help you accelerate a good circulation to the body and baby. Diet and regular exercises are essential things for you that you must consider during pregnancy.
- It is your concern to take good care of yourself for your baby.
- Try to stay comfortable with your environment; prefer to wear clothes that keep you at ease.
- Choose a good position while sleeping so you can breathe well and stay calm.
- Always stay far from stressful and energetic activities. Do not be worried about the delivery, being mentally prepared for the baby’s arrival.
- Ensure safety and bring no harm to the baby, take proper caution and protection as your baby is very delicate and sensitive. Believe it, motherhood is a pleasant phase; you will feel actual happiness if you will be able to lead the child a good life.
Good Motherhood Qualities
Motherhood is a great gift, and no one else can take that gift from you. Before the time of conception, you are being ready to become the perfect mother to your much-loved baby. When the baby is born, you will see and understand that the baby has its own inevitable individualities. The baby’s abilities and talents; you will enjoy the whole process from conception to birth and from birth till fully-grown.
Self-Care as a Mom is vital and you must give great worth to it. Self-care is one of those qualities that not only benefit you but the baby as well.
Spend quality time with children, help them learn new things, and give full attention to their needs. Often times, moms are busy, and they hardly find some time for their babies. You must avoid this negligence and give time to your child.
There are many Reasons to Love Motherhood, this gives you a fantastic feeling, and you face a wholly new life experience. Raising your child up is no easy, and there are no shortcuts to it. However, there are several complexities involved in motherhood, and it is very challenging but exciting for mothers. Once you have faced all the challenges, you will feel accomplished.
Motherhood builds a connection with your own child; it lets you feel your child carefully. You play with them, talk with them and sleep with them; it strengthens your bonding with each other. Motherhood allows you to watch your child grow up; as they grow, you see their interests and observe how they evolve.
Even in the most trying times, your child can be your ultimate joy and satisfaction. Children are a heritage, a reward, and a blessing to families. Most parents would agree that children can be your source of strength when times are tough and joy when things got rough.
Motherhood actually gives you a bundle of joy, you have spent your past just for yourself, but now you have to spend your time for your child as well. As a mother, you would want their best interest, and no matter if you are a little busy, you will feel great joy being a mother. Motherhood may not be for everyone, but to those who have been perfect by it they would be more than willing to share to everyone their experience of motherhood in stages.
As a mother with Rheumatoid Arthritis, every day has its own challenges. But what about the challenges presented to your own child? How do genetics play a role in what your child is at risk for?
As soon as I had my daughter, my first concern was how I would handle taking care of her, and my second concern was what risks I passed on to her. So, I did my research, and here is what I found.
Increased Risk of Rheumatoid Arthritis
According to one study published in Arthritis Care & Research, most children born to mothers with RA do appear to have a near triple increase risk of developing RA themselves. In the study, researchers followed children over 25 years.
As an auto-immune illness, RA does have a genetic component, which means your child may be at risk if you carry the disease.
The same study also showed that children of moms with RA also had a doubled risk of thyroid disease. The connection between RA and thyroid disease isn’t clear, but it could be related to inflammation.
It could take into adulthood for your child’s illness to take effect. However, your child also might not develop this illness. Keeping an eye out for thyroid-related symptoms is a great way to reduce their battle with any disease that might develop.
Children of mothers who have RA also have a 61 percent increased risk of developing epilepsy. Again, there is no apparent reason why uncertainty exists, but there are theories that specific genes make individuals more susceptible to certain illnesses. Also, exposure to RA while in the womb may increase the risk of other auto-immune diseases.
While studies need to be replicated, as a mother to a daughter, I feel more empowered knowing the risks and knowing what I should be on the lookout for.
It doesn’t mean I’ve failed.
It merely means my daughter is open to risks other children might not be.
And that’s okay. Together, we can make it through anything.
Generally, childcare is a difficult task even though it depends largely on the ages of the children. As a working mother, living with RA – whether moderate or severe – seems to be an everyday challenge and an unrelenting nightmare to overcome.
How do you cope as a mother with RA that has pain in your hands, picking up your child, and positioning her for breastfeeding? Or do you want to recount the difficulty of bathing your baby in the same condition? Or changing pampers? Rescuing your toddler who has fallen? Kneeling on the floor to play with your toddlers seems to be difficult or even impossible.
The challenges are just countless!
Thus, raising a baby with RA is an additional responsibility. However, do not panic! I once underwent the state, and I am still skating through it without a scratch.
Well, getting through those tough days cost me huge investments that would make me use my hands to care for my baby easily.
While some were terrible investments, others were good. The first thing I bought was a breathable baby wrap. I quickly put it on and just go anywhere I loved. That only solved a part of the problems. I then had to struggle with another issue – putting the baby in the car seat and then pick up to carry her. You sure don’t expect me to be fetching a 10-pound newborn baby all around with my condition!
After placing my baby on the seat upon rigorous processes, unbuckling the seat belt to get him out seemed impossible. I had to research what could help me do that easily, and I stumbled upon a car seat baby carrier. What a blessing!
Changing diapers and dressing my baby posed another severe challenge. Using onesies with snaps, buttons that often come with newborn clothing was not easy, as it was challenging for me to clip the buttons. Sometimes, I just left the buttons open. Other times, I asked for help if someone was home.
However, I eventually made a worthwhile investment – the magnetic onesies clothing – which ruled out my previous challenges in changing my baby’s diapers and dresses. The truth is that having a baby and RA gives you the dual job of caring for your baby as well as your RA and doesn’t come up so cheap. However, mothers often keep trying to make things work. Don’t be embarrassed to share what you struggle with as a mother. You will surely get products that will meet your needs as a mother living with RA.
Dear New Mama,
Did you just take a test and see those two little lines? Are you looking forward to your very first ultrasound? Are you already thinking about how you’ll decorate your nursery? Are you worried if you’ll be enough? Are you scared that your Rheumatoid Arthritis will keep you from being the mother you want to be?
Don’t worry, we all deal with the doubts and the “what if’s” of motherhood.
Pregnancy can be scary, and you’re dealing with more than the average mother. They say motherhood is the next great adventure, but how do they expect you to get there when your body is literally attacking itself? When does it feel like it’s tearing itself apart and taking you with it? How will you continue on when it’s not just for yourself anymore, but it’s for another tiny human who relies on you? It sounds scary, but I’m here to tell you that you aren’t alone. I’ve been in your shoes.
You can do it.
When I was pregnant, I absolutely loved it. Shocking right? I wasn’t on any medication, and yet the aches and pains and misery of RA left my body. I was at peace with my pregnancy, and I felt like I was invincible. The weekly ultrasounds kept me going because I knew I would get to see my baby every single week. And when that wasn’t enough? I bought my own handheld doppler and ultrasound gel, so I could hear the baby’s heartbeat on demand. Oh yes, I was that mom.
You are enough.
Yet, when there inevitably comes a time when you feel like your body is against you, know that you are enough, and you will get through this. You are not your symptoms of RA. You existed before they existed, and your desire for motherhood should persevere through them. Coming to terms with your reality might not be easy, but it will help you get to the next step and love yourself for where you are in life.
You aren’t the guilt you feel.
New moms feel notoriously guilty for everything. Why is their baby crying? Why can’t they keep their baby happy, their house clean, put dinner on the table, and have the rest of their lives together like they used to? Why don’t they feel happy and fulfilled like they thought they might? As a mom with RA, I’m here to tell you that you aren’t your fatigue or your aches and pains or the guilt that you feel that you can’t do it all. Being a new mother is hard. It’s hard for everyone. It’s hard for the woman without Rheumatoid Arthritis, and that nearly makes you superwoman. Your body did something incredible, and it’s continuing to fight itself. I’m here to tell you that you can do this, and that parenthood is so worth it even if it’s really tough sometimes.
Don’t forget to reach out.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed – by motherhood and by your symptoms – don’t ever forget to reach out. RA is isolating. Motherhood is isolating. If you’re feeling lonely and forgotten, you’re not the only one. You’re among thousands of other moms who are fighting similar battles. Find the people who can support you through the worst moments and never hesitate to reach out to them. They’ll be the ones you lean on when your baby is up in the middle of the night, and your body is so fatigued you can’t see straight. Reach out for help when you need it. It’s one of the most important things you can remember as a new mom.
Motherhood is what you make of it.
Maybe you’re doing great right now. And perhaps you’re doing terrible. RA has its ups and downs, and so does parenthood. When there are days that you don’t feel like you can get out of bed, remember there’s a little one you brought into this world who thinks you are the world. Never forget that. You are loved and valued despite a disease you didn’t ask for. You are superwoman to your baby, and that’s what matters.
Much love, A fellow RA Mom
Motherhood is hard. If you’re blessed to be a mother, you love your kids, but you know that the balance in your life is now in is a delicate one. You no longer have the time to yourself that you used to, and if you’re a working mama too—well, then forget it! As a mom with Rheumatoid Arthritis and a career, I slowly began to realize that I needed to take responsibility for everything in my life. If I wanted to change something or if I needed something different, then I needed to be the one to make that change.
Starting my day
Now, the first thing I do when I wake up thank God because I need him to get through my day. Then, I take a hot bath because it helps alleviate pain in my joints. This allows me to get my joints moving, which I need to stay active and get through my day. I also take any medication and supplements that I may need.
Being a mother
After I’m ready to go, I wake my daughter up and get her ready for daycare. What has worked for me is having a PLAN. Once I get everything set on Sunday, the week is a breeze for me. But I am human, and this is not always the case. Sometimes my mornings can be chaos. Sometimes I am so weak I can’t even get up, and I have to just lay down until I can get up. My daughter, a now talking toddler, maybe up and about at 6 AM, It frustrates me when I can’t get up before her, but I can only do what I can do.
Sometimes I say to myself I can’t do this anymore. That this is too much. But I have no choice, this is my way of life, and I need the income for my family. The juggling act of motherhood, a career, and an auto-immune disease like RA can be overwhelming. Still, I’m grateful every day that I can somehow make it work. It isn’t perfect, and some days are better than others. It’s always one foot in front of the other. Making it work step by step.