Motherhood is hard. You love your kids, but you know that the balance in your life is now in is a delicate one. You no longer have the time to yourself that you used to, and if you’re a working mama too—well then forget it! As a mom with Rheumatoid Arthritis and a career, I slowly began to realize that I needed to take responsibility for everything in my life. If I wanted to change something or if I needed something different, then I needed to be the one to make that change.

Starting my day

Now, the first thing I do when I wake up is thank God because I need him to get through my day. Then, I take a hot bath, because it helps alleviate pain in my joints. This allows me to get my joints moving, which I need to stay active and get through my day. I also take any medication and supplement that I may need.

Being a mother

After I’m ready to go, I wake my daughter up and get her ready for day care. What has worked for me is having a PLAN. Once I get everything set on Sunday, the week is a breeze for me. But I am human, and this is not always the case. Sometimes my mornings can be chaos. Sometimes I am so weak I can’t even get up, and I have to just lay down until I can get up. My daughter, a now talking toddler, may be up and about at 6 AM. It frustrates me when I can’t get up before her, but I can only do what I can do.

Having perspective

Sometimes I say to myself I can’t do this anymore. That this is too much. But I have no choice, this is my way of life and I need the income for my family. The juggling act of motherhood, a career, and an auto-immune disease like RA can be overwhelming, but I’m grateful every day that I can somehow make it work. It isn’t perfect, and some days are better than others. It’s always one foot in front of the other. Making it work step by step.